Somehow, some-bloody-how despite the fact that I've gained body confidence in my early 30's, or as I like to call it "I actually don't give a sh*t what you think" confidence, I'm really lost when it comes to dressing this ole curvy skin of mine. I mean, really lost. Lost in a dense Amazonian forest, with no map, compass or sat nav lost.
If you open my wardrobe of shame, you'll find a few pairs of jeans, some spotty Primark tops and shirts, a few jumpers, cute flats and a sparkly dress or two for special occasions. It's very much 'plain Jane' and as my boyfriend 'kindly' pointed out to me the other day, I always wear the same thing. That's man code for 'you have no style'. Thanks man code, thannnnks.
Part of this is down to the fact that I'm trying to change my weight and body shape and so my thought process goes as follows "Ah sure there's no point buying clothes when they won't fit ya in 2 months time!" and so I choose to spend my money on experiences and beauty products and very little on clothing. It's also because I'm not sure what to wear. Over the last few years I have ventured away from River Island and Topshop and moved more towards H and M and Next. I still purchase accessories in River Island and Topshop, but crop tops, bowler hats and dungarees, I'm good thanks!
For all of the above reasons, you'll notice I've never shared an outfit post on this blog as I simply don't see myself as fashionable or stylish and I can tell you, its far from fashion blogging I was reared! However, with all of this in mind, I'm not afraid of colour or experimenting, I just think that most of the time, the majority of clothing doesn't suit me or perhaps I'm at an age where I can't wear or get away with it any more.
Enter the inspirational and newly discovered (to me) blog Not Dressed As Lamb. This beautiful blog came as a bolt of lightening to me last week. Catherine Summers is a British 40 something blogger with impeccable style and not to mention, amazing hair colour. (I want her hair!) Flicking through her posts and beautiful photographs, I came to the realisation that 32 is not old, 32 is not a reason to stop dressing up and with a little research and investment in quality clothing, I could get a sense of style. I could dress myself in the mornings, feel comfortable, stylish and certainly not a frump! As women, we so easily knock ourselves down, assuming that with age we can do and be less. Not the case ladies, not the case at all.
Catherine is clearly testament to this. I am seriously fan-girling her style. Her confidence to mix up pieces and use lots and lots of colour. I think her use of bright colours is what attracts me the most. As an art graduate I somehow feel compelled to dress bright, as if its my duty. I'm just not the best as putting colour pieces together or even discovering and choosing them in the first instance.
Catherine is clearly testament to this. I am seriously fan-girling her style. Her confidence to mix up pieces and use lots and lots of colour. I think her use of bright colours is what attracts me the most. As an art graduate I somehow feel compelled to dress bright, as if its my duty. I'm just not the best as putting colour pieces together or even discovering and choosing them in the first instance.
In order to achieve my goal of ultimate fashion fabulousness, I'm going to start with my wardrobe of fashion shame. I'll count what I have and make a list of investment pieces needed to improve current items and a list of pieces that will contribute in me becoming my best self. I don't want to dress or look like something I'm not, I just want to be my best self. To feel good, to feel confident and perhaps, shine a little brighter. So ladies, let clear out our closets. Clear out the ill fitting items, the items you haven't worn in months or years, and the items with the tags still on them and instead invest our money in more high quality pieces. Pieces that will last the test of time, more than a couple of spins in the washing machine and ultimately make us feel like the confident amazing women we are! Here's to being 'Not Dressed As Lamb!'.
Blog: Not Dressed As Lamb
Twitter: @notlamb
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Blog: Not Dressed As Lamb
Twitter: @notlamb
Pinterest: Not Dressed As Lamb
I met Catherine at an event last year, she is lovely :)
ReplyDeleteOh this post is so true, I'm in my 30's too and I have come full circle, not body confident when I was in my teens right up to 20, then body confident and now I'm going backwards again. When I moved into our new home over 2 years ago and got married, I did a big clear out and got rid of all my mini skirts, wee tops and night club type clothes as I wasn't wearing them anyway. In a way I was attached to them as they were when I was body confident.
ReplyDeleteI am only 5ft 2 and just normal weight but somehow I hate picking clothes for going out to the pub, to weddings or any social occasion. I prefer casuals and stick to my style which is country style fashion or nautical- skinny jeans, t-shirts, shirts, blazers. Now that it is summer, I hate string tops, I hate low v necks on me so I still look like the same as Spring, Winter and the rest of the year. I really need to read this blog you have recommended and have an overhaul of my wardrobe!
Thanks for the encouragement :)
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